Choose not to be harmed—and you won’t feel harmed. Don’t feel harmed—a…

Choose not to be harmed—and you won’t feel harmed.
Don’t feel harmed—and you haven’t been.

It can ruin your life only if it ruins your character. Otherwise it cannot harm you—inside or out.

— Meditations, Book 4:7-820 more from Marcus Aurelius→

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