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In my teenage years—in tandem with all the other naïve and absurd thoughts that used to inhabit this mind—I approached every potential relationship believing that it could work irrespective of the circumstances. Likely merely a subconscious response to ameliorate myself from the persistent sting of loneliness, I blinded myself to the glaringly obvious unanswered questions: Have I spent enough…

I’ve always found it particularly interesting that some may find it rational to justify the overly high standards of modern dating culture—the preemptive raising of “red flags,” absurd and arbitrary perfectionist demands in physical attractiveness, characterological traits, and for the entire dating process from start to finish to be free of discomfort or strife. Many still seem to justify it as…

We find it all too easy to be haughty, to be disdainful, to speak with a choleric air of arrogance and superiority when we impudently operate by the premise that the people we’re speaking to are intentionally lazy, careless, inattentive, selfish, immoral, or hypocritical. But time and time again, once we actually take the time to learn the other person’s story, we regret our contemptuous…

The act of criticizing someone undeniably carries a hefty negative connotation. Many of our preconceived notions of criticism entail personal feuds or grudges, scolding, chastising, humiliation, ridicule, and the shame, embarrassment, fear, or resentment that these actions inevitably precipitate. But why is this? If we think about it, offering constructive feedback to others is perhaps one of the…

I’ve drawn parallels between job interviews and online dating in the past. Fundamentally, to achieve broad success in either of these endeavors, it comes down to your ability to market yourself and to give a convincing sales pitch before our date or our interviewer’s attention span or patience is depleted. This quickly becomes problematic when you realize that for many individuals, this type of…